Porn, Secret Messages, and/or an affair. The images invade your thoughts over and over. You’re asking yourself, “Am I enough? Why doesn't he want me?” Consequently, you know this betrayal shattered everything you thought you had in your marriage. I want you to know that you don’t have to carry this devastation by yourself.
It’s late, and you’re scrolling through your husband's phone in the kitchen.
Betrayal trauma lands in your body, invades your thoughts, and devastates your relationship with God, your husband, and others. Christian Betrayal Trauma Therapy addresses these layers of pain so you can experience healing deep in your soul.
You notice:
I know this sounds like your life right now, so you’re in the right place.
You notice:
- You feel numb,tense, and edgy all in the same day.
- Trust has been shattered in your marriage.
- You’re monitoring your husband's behavior constantly, because you're afraid you’ll miss something.
- You’re wondering if you should stay in your marriage and you’re terrified to say that out loud. Christian Betrayal Therapy can help you explore those difficult questions.
- You’re hearing “forgive and move on,” and that doesn't validate the depth of your pain.
- You’re praying to God and wondering if He’s listening.
- You're bracing yourself for more shocking discoveries.
I know this sounds like your life right now, so you’re in the right place.
When betrayal blows up what you thought you had
In Christian Betrayal Trauma Therapy, we slow everything down so you can face the reality and impact of what happened and make wise choices. We focus on:
- Challenging lie-based thoughts with Scripture, so what happened doesn’t define you or rob you of your peace.
- Discerning guilt and responsibility, so you’re not blaming yourself or accepting blame for your husband's choices.
- .Building concrete boundaries to protect your heart, body, and home in a Christ-centered trauma therapy setting.
- Learning the difference between a pattern and a mistake.
- Naming red flags, yellow flags, and green flags in your relationship.
- Recognizing gaslighting and manipulative spins when they show up.
- Honoring the Holy Spirit’s nudges instead of giving in to fear, pressure, and shame.
What We Work on Together in Christian Betrayal Trauma Therapy
- Honest confession and transparency.
- Consistent accountability and real change over time.
- Healthy and respectful communication that doesn’t abuse, manipulate, or disrespect anyone.
- Safety for the betrayed spouse.
- Thoughtful rebuilding, if that’s where both of you want to go
I won’t push or sway you toward a decision about your marriage. We’ll talk about what’s happening, what you need, and what is safe for now.
For Christian Husbands and Wives Who Are Willing to Participate in Their Healing We Focus on:
Betrayal can shake how you pray, how you read Scripture, and and your relationship with God. If you want to bring your faith into therapy, we can:
I don’t use Scripture to excuse harm or rush you past your pain. Therefore, we’ll let it support your healing and honor God’s care for you.
God’s love for you doesn’t shift based on your husband’s behavior, and worth isn’t up for debate here.
Also. God doesn't expect you to stay in oppressive and harmful relationships.
- Pray together
- Read passages of Scripture that speak to grief, being sinned against, and God’s nearness
- Sort through teaching or advice that left you feeling blamed or unsafe
- Put words to what’s changed in how you relate to God
I don’t use Scripture to excuse harm or rush you past your pain. Therefore, we’ll let it support your healing and honor God’s care for you.
God’s love for you doesn’t shift based on your husband’s behavior, and worth isn’t up for debate here.
Also. God doesn't expect you to stay in oppressive and harmful relationships.
Your Relationship with God and Scripture in Christian Betrayal Trauma Therapy
Hi There! I’m Rhonda, a licensed marriage and family therapist. I meet with Christian wives and Christian married couples (husband and wife) who are walking through betrayal trauma.
In Christian Betrayal Trauma Therapy, you can expect:
Additionally, I take what happened to you seriously. We’ll sit with your questions and grief and look for wise, honest choices you can make next.
In Christian Betrayal Trauma Therapy, you can expect:
- Sessions where you can say what actually happened out loud without minimizing it.
- Time to name the shock, anger, fear, and grief you feel.
- Clear, usable language for talking with your husband about boundaries, safety, and what you need;
- Care that pays attention to how your body is handling all of this and moves at a pace that fits your needs
- Guided use of Scripture to challenge intrusive, self-blaming thoughts with what’s real and true.
Additionally, I take what happened to you seriously. We’ll sit with your questions and grief and look for wise, honest choices you can make next.
How I work
- Christian wives navigating betrayal trauma
- Christian married couples who want to work on healing after betrayal
- Christian wives and married couples who are located in Tennessee and Alabama.
Furthermore, if you’re outside those states, I can’t meet with you for therapy. But, you’re still welcome to read what’s here, watch my teaching on YouTube, and join my email list for practical support.
Also, these resources aren’t therapy, but they can help you put words to what you’re walking through, stay grounded in truth, and serve as a supplement to therapy with a licensed provider in your own state.
Who I Serve
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Get the 72-Hour Crisis Quickstart Plan
When disclosure hits, your mind can spin, and your body can feel like it is on high alert. Basically, this printable 72-Hour Crisis Quickstart Plan for Christian wives walks you through the first three days with a simple checklist, safety and logistics questions, a support map, and phrases you can use to pause conversations, set contact rules, and plan hard talks without making permanent decisions in shock. So, when you're at the kitchen table, in the car, or on the bathroom floor with the door locked, you can open this guide and follow the next few steps in front of you, remembering that God is with you in your pain.
