Porn. Secret Messages. An affair.
You can’t stop thinking about what he did. You’re asking yourself, “Am I enough? Why doesn't he want me?”You’re wondering if you’re making too much of it, while a part of you knows this shattered everything you thought you had in your marriage. You don’t have to keep carrying this on your own.
You didn’t picture this scene.
It’s late and you’re scrolling through his phone.or you’re sitting in the car after church, trying to smile for the kids. Or you’re in the kitchen, staring at the counter, replaying what you found..
You might notice:
- You feel numb, on edge, or both in the same day.
- You don’t trust what he says or what you see.
- You’re watching his behavior constantly, afraid you’ll miss something.
- You’re wondering if you should stay and you’re scared to say that out loud.
- You’re hearing “forgive and move on,” and it doesn’t match the depth of your pain.
- You’re talking to God and wondering if He’s listening.
If this sounds like your life right now, you’re in the right place.
When betrayal blows up what you thought you had
With Christian wives in betrayal trauma, we focus on:
- Challenging lie-based thoughts with Scripture, so what happened doesn’t name you.
- Sorting out guilt from responsibility, so you’re not taking on his choices.
- Building concrete boundaries that protect your heart, body, and home.
- Learning the difference between a pattern and a mistake.
- Naming red flags, yellow flags, and green flags in your relationship.
- Recognizing gaslighting and manipulative spins when they show up.
- Honoring the Holy Spirit’s nudges instead of fear, pressure, or shame.
What we work on together
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- Honest confession and transparency
- Accountability and change that can be described
- Communication that doesn’t bulldoze or shut down
- Safety for the betrayed partner
- Thoughtful rebuilding, if that’s where both of you want to go
With couples who are willing to work on their healing, we focus on:
If you want to bring your faith into therapy, we can:
- Pray together
- Read passages of Scripture that speak to grief, being sinned against, and God’s nearness
- Sort through teaching or advice that left you feeling blamed or unsafe
- Put words to what’s changed in how you relate to God
I don’t use Scripture to excuse harm or rush you past your pain. We’ll let it support your healing and honor God’s care for you.
God’s love for you doesn’t shift based on your husband’s behavior. Your worth isn’t up for debate..
Your Faith, Scripture, and betrayal trauma
I sit with Christian wives whose world has been split open by betrayal, lies, and late disclosures. In our work together, we slow things down, name what's been hidden, and bring your fear, anger, and questions before God with honesty. With me, you can say what you've not been able to say anywhere else, notice what your body is telling you, and sort through real choices about your marriage without being rushed or pushed
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Get the 72-Hour Crisis Quickstart Plan
When disclosure hits, your mind can spin and your body can feel like it is on high alert. This printable 72-Hour Crisis Quickstart Plan for Christian wives walks you through the first three days with a simple checklist, safety and logistics questions, a support map, and phrases you can use to pause conversations, set contact rules, and plan hard talks without making permanent decisions in shock. When you're at the kitchen table, in the car, or when you're on the bathroom floor with the door locked, you can open this guide and follow the next few actions in front of you while remembering that God is with you in your pain.
